Imagine the Possibilities

This blog talks about creating a Life Possibilities List that will become your source of inspiration – to help bring clarity to what you want in your life (Life Plan), to create a daily/weekly/monthly plan, and/or to look to when you need a little push out of boredom.  In the Retirement Transition Process of Reflect, Imagine, Assess, Activate and Refine, this is Imagine!
This Possibilities List is more than just a honey-do task list of cleaning out the basement and going to those places you always wanted to visit, although those things are on it as well.  Years ago while exploring creating a bucket list, I realized a good list is more than the “100 things to do before I die”.  While those things are great to have on the list, this possibilities list should also include elements of who you want to be and skills/talents you want to develop.
There are many “life list” approaches (books/websites) that are quite helpful.  I’m sharing exercises I felt worked best for me – a range of brain stimulating tasks and various sources of inspiration. As you go through these, don’t make excuses to not put something on the list – no buts, or don’t know how’s.  I do know that you will unconsciously filter things that just really have no interest for you. (I just do not want to jump out of a plane, ever. It is not on my list.)  My goal for my first list was 150 items.   My current list has more as I’ve been inspired by others lists.
After you have your list, you can do a few things with it. In my Retirement Transition process, I use it to choose activities that match my Life Vision statement (interests, strengths, values and life domains I want to focus on).  You can use it to look for patterns to create a “big plan” idea that might link multiple possibilities.  Here’s a real example from my Possibilities List: researching and planning trips + African Safari + wildlife spotting + luxury vacation + cross the equator + visit 25 new countries + time with hubby = plan an African Safari trip with Tauck adventures for our 25th anniversary.  You can also use it to create a vision board (visual collage of the life you want to have this year). Or define some grand goals; “50 states by the time I am 50” was a grand goal earlier in my life (completed!).

Best Approaches:
Mind Mapping JOY – What activities bring you joy today? What makes you lose track of time when you are engaged in it? What do you spend time doing when you can do anything? What activities brought you joy in the past? What old hobbies do you want to re-ignite?

Resolving Concerns. What activities might help in some of your personal concern areas?
– Activities that will get me physically fit – Do you want to get your body in shape? Change your eating habits? What are some physical pursuits you’ve always thought about trying? Learn to play a sport?
– Activities that will create connection – Do you want to reconnect with friends you might have not had time for? Spend more time with family? Create new friendships?
– Activities that will stimulate my brain/personal development — What have you dreamed about trying/studying? What have people suggested you try?
— Need to work?  Whether for emotional or financial reasons, you might have identified a need to produce an income stream from part-time work. Here’s some ideas for turning interest or expertise into income:
–  Be the Expert (capitalize on your work experience and contacts) – consultant, coach, mentor, adjunct professor, on-line instructor, recruiter, speaker, corporate trainer, professional organization administrator, writer (publish books), create & sell digital downloads/training.

– Small Business Creation for day-to-day needs/services – dog walker, driver, organizer, personal shopper, tax prep, personal concierge, personal chef, business support services, home stager, proof reader, website developer, home companion

– Part-time jobs where time = money – freelance writing, photographer, seasonal work (summer camps, parks, stores), retail in passion area (fashion, home improvement, gardening, cooking, home decor), fitness instructor (yoga, zumba)

– Buy into Franchise/License a Program – independent sales consultant, life coach

–  New Career (require new skills or certification) – performer (musician, actor, comedian), mediator, teacher, health care worker/practitioner, realtor, minister, financial advisor, lawyer

Additional fun brainstorm activities: 

  • Go back and look at older journals, older life/bucket lists , older to-do lists (if you have them). What did you like to do, want to do? Or ask family and /or old friends – What did I always want to do?
  • Go to the bookstore and select 5 books/magazines on things you’ve never done (check the books for Dummies section). What are they? You might even buy them and explore! If nothing else, what sections in the bookstore did you drift to?
  • Who’s lifestyles do you/ have you admired? What about them would you like to replicate in yours? I love A’s food adventurism, K’s devotion to exercise, M’s search for wearable yet trendy fashion, C’s active stay-cation mindset summers.
  • If you were to create a TV documentary or TV special or blog, what would it be about?
  • List your 5-10 Imaginary Lives. If you could pick 5-10 other lives to live, what would they be? The list is endless – do not be sensible – pick at least 5 that would be fun & exciting. To get you started, here’s some I have seen on other’s lists: screenwriter, tour guide, realtor, sailor, pilot, teacher, mountain climber, kite flyer, lawyer, car racer, B&B owner, bird watcher, chess champion, paid musician, martial arts black belt(er), park ranger, massage therapist, interior designer, health coach, nutritionist, cowboy, golf coach, actor, dancer, architecture buff, knitter, published writer, preacher, photographer, board member, start-up advisor, house restorer, antique dealer, standup comedian, mediator, landscaper, artist, life coach, financial advisor, travel writer, chef, magician, yoga teacher, marathoner, dog trainer, fitness instructor.
  • What are the 25 destinations you have always wanted to visit (locally, domestically, internationally), the 25 things you always wanted to learn to do, the 25 things you want to experience (foods to eat, people to meet, events to attend, books to read)
  • What is your “metro list” – the total stay-cation/ learn your city list – museums, boutiques, shows, festival, parks, restaurants, neighborhoods, outdoor art, etc.
  • Fill in the blanks: Someday I would love to try _________. If money were no object, I would try __________. If I knew I could be successful/competent at it, I would ____________.
  • Look at other people’s lists! Steal & reapply. What does it spark for you? Does something make you say “wow, isn’t that cool?”

Some of the ideas that have appeared on Possibilities Lists I have seen (and some from mine!):

create my family tree have my palm read or tarot mentor a start-up
join a book club learn to fly a plane take a photography class
create a dinner club volunteer at the bird sanctuary watch the top 100 classic movies
volunteer as an usher improve social media literacy eat more healthy
learn to play piano bicycle regualry write a blog
create an LLC and network for projects try all the top restaurants in town take cooking classes
learn to play chess hot air balloon ride spend time gardening
design a house get regular massage create support network of friends
regularly go to farmers markets go to art galleries Machu Picchu
go to theater regularly plan big trip each year, including researching cross country in an RV
RoadScholar on architecture or  geology create a place where “everybody knows my name” See the northern lights
cross the equator Italy African Safari – wildlife spotting
Ireland Walking Vacation regular nature walks/hikes crossword puzzle daily
house declutter study mythology and mysticism have outfit designed/hand made
plan and execute a stay-cation summer train my dog to be therapy dog work in community garden
Visit all 57 National parks take astronomy course become an antique dealer
Become an AARP Tax volunteer meditation retreat create and execute 100 books to read list
Explore Meet Ups Take painting lessons Jump out of a plane

So what are the 150 Possibilities on your list?


The Liebster Award – An Honored Recipient

For non-Wordpress folks who read me or even WordPress newer bloggers, The Liebster Award is a pass-a-long recognition of seemingly unknown origin, used by small bloggers to pay forward a little visibility to other small bloggers (less than 200 followers). The award has a side effect – it helps people get to know other bloggers (often blogging in same general area) and for subscribers/readers to get to know the blogger (i.e. me) better.

Sparky at has amazingly nominated me for this award!   If you have not checked him out, please do.  He’s about to retire, and unlike me, has been planning it well in advance. *sigh*

Unlike other awards, this one comes with rules and a job to do:
▪ Include the Liebster Award sticker in your post. (attempted – learning this new skill!)
▪ Nominate 5-10 other new bloggers with less than 200 followers who you think deserve this award.
▪ Let them know they have been nominated by commenting on one of their posts.
▪ Answer the 10 questions asked by the person who nominated you and then make ten questions of your own for your nominees.
▪ Lastly, copy these rules into your post.

It wasn’t easy identifying some great blogs that have not already been nominated and because I added a caveat in my “deserve this award” criteria – I had to be already following them and they had to have inspired me to make a comment on their postings.  Yeah, I always have set high expectations.  So, this meant I only have 5 blogs to nominate – but ones I would love to share with you.   BK is also a recent retiree with an amazing ability to post something insightful almost every day.  She has inspired me more than once!   I “met” James in Blogging 101 and am glad I did.  He has an amazing wit and is refining his craft in Writing 101 right now. His posts make me smile.   I just discovered Elle but will be following her closely… she’s a month into her retirement and has a lovely writing style – truly engaging.
Users Guide to Retirement from    Colleen is also just into this retirement life and learning as she goes, but with a great writing style!  Another *sigh*.   Another new retiree writing about her transition. Carol has been added to my “group of recently retired professional women” – we are all in this one together, learning our way and supporting each other.
The 10 questions for these bloggers are at the end of the post.  I look forward to seeing their responses!
So here are the 10 questions given to me (and in true Pat style, my answers are not short!):
1. Why did you start your blog? A year ago, I retired earlier-than-expected from a 30+ year Corporate career without any (non-financial) retirement plan in place. The days after the retirement moment became a journey of transition. Part of my self-reflection was discovering a desire to write, confirming my love of research & synthesis, and a realization that I liked to advise/teach others. This all merged into creation of a Retirement Transition blog where I am hoping to connect with others on similar transition journey from full-time career to what comes next – to share my “wisdom” and learn together.

2. What do you think is the best use of your money? This might sound very self-serving, but I spent a lot of years working and saving and putting off living. I was always a fair-share giver to the causes – United Way & other causes we believe in. So the best use of my money NOW is to pay for the rest of our lives – to live a fulfilling life – from travel to a dream kitchen. I will personally help boost the economy.

3. What would a perfect day look like for you? My perfect day right now is a full-on leisure day! (I am learning how to not-work!) An early morning scan of current events, email and FB followed by a few hours at the beach – shelling, SUPing, walking, reading and socializing with neighbors. A good long walk for my dog and then a fish dinner outside at a local restaurant. (can you tell this is in Florida!) When I get tired of those days, I’ll do some consulting project work.

4. If you could travel anywhere in the world (cost aside), where would it be and why? My next dream travel is an African Safari. But I want to do the ultimate luxury one, with a reliable outfitter. For me it covers a few of the things on my Life Possibilities list – adventure travel, crossing the equator, wildlife spotting and visiting new countries & continents. I am hoping to convince my husband to do this for our 25th wedding anniversary!

5. What is an experience that changed your life for the better? Meeting and marrying my husband. I went through my 20’s without really finding anyone that I connected with – this in an era where it was published that you were more likely to be killed by a terrorist than get married if you passed age 27 unwed…. and getting the MRS degree was what most women I graduated high school with went to college for. But I had moved on and come to terms with being single for life – I had bought my house, created a circle of friends, learned to travel solo. And then I met this guy…. who made me a better person. That changed my life forever, and I am super happy about it.

6. If you were going to die after dinner, what would your last meal be? The food would not matter as much as the conversation. One of my favorite things is food (and wine) with friends – the friends being the most important component. I love a good dinner conversation!

7. What is your favorite thing about the area in which you live? Having grown up right outside NYC, people always ask me how I can possibly be happy in a mid-size, mid-west city. What I love is you can LIVE here. You can go out to dinner at a great restaurant (with friends) without making reservations weeks in advance. You can afford a great home in a great neighborhood. You can regularly go to the theater or the opera or the symphony without going into debt. You can go to sporting events (if that is your thing) and get tickets almost anytime. Anything that is your “thing” is here – without the crowds and expense of the big cities.

8. What would/does early retirement look like for you? Since I am in it, I can say it is a slower pace than I had before. I get enough sleep these days. I can sit and read blogs and enjoy coffee in the sunlight on a great fall morning. I have started an exercise program, for the first time in 15 years. I have moved from being an expert to being an explorer. I am taking classes and trying new things. I am a person in transition.

9. How will you/did you tell your boss you were retiring?  I told my boss when I knew that the “finances would work” that I was “open” to a downsizing package, not really expecting one. I was a highly-regarded expert in a specialized area and we had not identified anyone to apprentice in the skills. So the downsizing package was a shock. But as we (boss & I) talked and agreed, it was the right time for me to leave. The downsizing would have created so much more stress for me and I didn’t have a life… it was time for me to find one.

10. How will you/do you answer the question “what do you do for a living?” I have come to terms with the phrase “I’m retired”, which often shocks people. Not only did I retire early (54), but I look much younger than my years. A combination of good genes and no kids? I often follow it up with some of the things I am doing that week – like writing my blog, my latest consulting LLC project, whatever class I am taking, my most recent trip taken or in the planning stage, or just puppy sitting for our neighbors. These days I am living, not doing for a living.

My ten questions for my nominees:
Why did you start blogging?
What blog inspires you the most?
What hobbies (besides blogging) do you enjoy?
What is your favorite book or movie?
What would your perfect day look like/be like?
If you could travel anywhere in the world (without worry of cost or safety), where and why?
What do you consider to be the craziest thing on your bucket list? (craziest life goal?)
How do you answer the question – what do you do for a living?
If you could have a super-power, what would it be?
If you could change one thing about your life right now, what would it be?

The Lows of Transition

So retirement is all happy, happy, happy, right?   Not so much this first year where it felt a little bit like a roller coaster.  Many happy, stress-free days but also, the low points did happen.  You try something and get negative feedback. You lean in for something and get rejected. You feel totally uncertain doing things when you used to be the expert. You make mistakes. You tell people you are retired and they look at you as if you said you have a disease – “But what do you do?”   You look at your calendar for a full week and it’s completely empty. What do I do?

All these moments have happened to me during this first year of retirement transition. It led me to wonder if I should have retired or just kept working – where I was adding value, connected to others, and appreciated for my expertise. I got stressed.  Was I failing at retirement?

So what did I do. I took a deep breath and re-grouped. OK, maybe it was with a glass of wine and a good friend to whine with. But I took a step back and re-established that I needed to continue to “let it go”. In this case, letting go of the expectations of others. Letting go of the need for perfection. Letting go of busy-ness as a sign of worth.

Then I re-looked at my vision statement – the one that states who I want to be in this next life stage. I revisited my choices, my goals and my action plans. And yes, I was glad I had spent the time on that self-reflection and writing it all down!   A few times I needed to boost my scheduling of activities – the classes, the walks, the writing time, the coffees and lunch dates.   A few times I needed to remind myself that downtime is good – you like to sit in the sun and read a book & that is OK on a lazy summer afternoon.

I have also found that my days need to be a balance between a completely filled, to-do based schedule that is overpacked, busy and stress-out about dropping balls, and a whole slew of unstructured, go-with-the-flow, waiting for spontaneity, empty days with nothing to do.  So I try and have both – some scheduled time and some unscheduled time.

I saw this phrase recently and loved it (I paraphrased a bit): Live a balanced life – learn some and drink some and read some and write some and sing and dance and play and work everyday some.

For me, it is learning how to play, or fill the leisure time.  For years my husband has said “we just don’t know how to resort” – yes, resort is a verb that defines leisure time. So, I have learned to find the joy in the small, leisure things – a fresh cup of coffee on the porch in the morning sunshine, playing scrabble on line, or meeting a friend for happy hour.

I look back on what I have “accomplished” in this first year of transition, which I started without any plan at all.  I celebrate the small achievements – my first blog posting, and my second and third ones, too.  And the honey-do list completions, with some items that have been on the list for years! I give myself my own gold stars for taking writing classes, computer classes and starting my LLC. I created a “crazy summer fun bucket list”…and was not disappointed in doing only 14 of the 20 things – 14 is better than zero!

And I continue to transition, to find a new rhythm of life.  And when the lows do happen, I re-group and re-start.  And the roller coaster goes back up.

Jolts of Joy

A How-to: Build into your daily life more of what brings you joy.

As I was creating my new life rhythm in Retirement Transition, I recalled an exercise I had seen about Jolts of Joy. It was about identifying the little things in life that bring you joy – the small things that just bring a smile to your face, a warmth to your heart.  And then, once you consciously know what they are, trying to incorporate them into your everyday life.  I remember it was a fun activity and I set out this time to create 31 jolts of joy – one for each day of the month. Then, I did incorporate many (not all) into my life!  From buying high-thread-count sheets and a whole bunch of fine-tip blue point pens to planning and appreciating the moments I spend doing things I love, like reading, gardening and going to craft shows.

Here is my list of Jolts of Joy (to get you started on your own – because I do believe in stealing and reapplying). For me, a non-athletic foodie, many had to do with food and relaxation. For you, they could be other things.  I challenge you to create your list and then build them into your daily routines.

1. Bringing order from chaos…. In my house, in my research area, in my to-do lists
2. Good dinner with good friends – meaning it’s also good conversation!
3. Afternoon nap in the sun
4. Read a “light” book – romance or mystery
5. Spend time gardening
6. Nice long walk – in a park with the dog
7. Listen to the rain on the roof, watch the lightening flash
8. Comfortable clothes
9. Open windows, fresh air in the house
10. Farmers Market
11. Crafts show or artsy galleries/shops
12. Sitting on the porch
13. Get a massage
14. Get a pedicure
15. 8 – 9 hours of sleep every night
16. Go to the theater (live theater)
17. Walk on the beach and find shells
18. Holding hands with Tim (that’s my hubby)
19. Fresh veggies for dinner – chopping and sautéing into a stir fry
20. Craft a new story/concept/idea/model
21. Crisp cotton sheets on the bed
22. Fresh fluffy towels in the bathroom
23. Talking on the phone with my mom
24. Wearing one of a kind jewelry (that people notice)
25. Fresh (summer) tomatoes
26. Fine point blue pens and blank pieces of paper/new journal
27. Fresh pasta dinner with good bread
28. Sushi
29. Awesome piece of chocolate
30. Breaking a sweat doing something healthy – Zumba, hiking
31. Checking things off the to-do list (and making another one)

My Process to Work through Retirement Transition

After reading many different approaches to planning for retirement, I created a process to work through and create a Life Plan for this next life stage.  Why a plan?  One of my favorite quotes is a Japanese proverb: “Vision without action is a daydream.  Action without vision is a nightmare”.   So my process builds from creating a vision (dream) to taking action.

Creating the next half of my life required transitioning from a work-focused persona to a blend of life and work activities. This was Not about the finances in retirement (will I have enough money?).  This was about all the other stuff – the identity I wanted (who do you want to be when you grow up?), the activities I wanted (heavy on the life, light on the work), and even some of how was I going to accomplish it (goal setting, new habit formation).  This process took personal reflection and some persistence (hard work), but it has helped me work through some of the letting go of the past as well as creating a vision of my future that I am actively pursuing.  As George Bernard Shaw says: “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself”.  I am creating a new (non-work) me.
Here are the 5 phases of the process. I re-looped a few times as I worked through activities in each phase and learned new things about myself. I also found it helpful to keep a journal of the outcomes of the activities and tools I used. (In future blogs I hope to detail some of the better tools I found in each phase.)

1. REFLECT: self-discovery, know thyself.  This is deep introspection to become the foundational insights for creating a “life vision” statement, and later providing the basis for assessing activities to be included in an action plan.

What it is: Reflecting on who you are and who you want to be so you can decide what stays, what goes, what’s added to life so you can live and love the new life you are living.  It starts with understanding the identity that is you and not just your work.

Taking the time to really do the deep introspection was helpful. As Carl Jung says: “Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart”. It was helpful to clearly articulate my values (enduring and situational), personal drivers and motivators, skills/strengths, roles, and interests.

Coming out of Reflect was a vision statement for my future. As I’ve written in a previous blog, linking life activities to interests, strengths and values brings higher happiness (Happiness By Design). So these 3 elements became the foundation for my life vision statement.

I also used a 7 Domains of Life model to craft my holistic vision: Location/Lifestyle, Relationships/Connections, Community/Volunteerism, Health/Wellbeing, Work/Career, Hobby/Leisure, Finances/Prosperity. (OK, finances did sneak in – if only to make sure the vision was fundable!). My vision was in words, since I love words.
2. IMAGINE: all the possibilities. Creating a Potentials for Life list as output.

This was more than just a task list of “honey-do” projects or a bucket list of all those places I want to visit (although those things are on it as well). This was creating a list of all future life possibilities, from passions to dreams to inklings – in work, leisure, volunteering, relationships, lifestyle. It’s about skills/talents I want to use and ones to learn or develop. Yes, writing a blog was on my list!

I used a series of brainstorming activities to create my Personal Possibilities List, which has over 150 ideas on it.
3. ASSESS: Compare possibilities back to foundational insights and life vision to make choices in creating my Life Portfolio Plan.

It’s actually been proven that too many options can cause stress in the selection and in-fact lack of choice. Analysis paralysis! This phase was about choosing activities that best matched the vision of life I created, which was based on my values, strengths and interests.

By making choices, I can focus energy on the important few instead of the insignificant many.  It also helped me avoid busyness for the sake of busyness and have a inner conviction to say “no” to things that were not right for me (even though others thought I should do them).  I chose a starting set of activities that fit my vision statement, focusing on a few Life Domains that I felt were more important at this moment – Relationships/Connections, Leisure/Hobby and Health/Wellbeing.
4. ACTIVATE: Exploring new activities; setting goals & changing habits

By design or by default, the next life stage will happen. Life goes on.  By making choices and setting goals, I am designing the Life I want to live and the Who I want to be.  I set clear on goals & measures for each of the specific activities chosen in Assess – what I am trying to achieve and how will I know that I’ve gotten there?

Yes, it is balance of scheduled planning and keeping time open for spontaneity and relaxation. I have found that if I don’t actively plan/schedule, time just escapes. I also found that it’s about considering both me-time and we-time with my husband.

It was also about understanding my personal barriers to change and how to break thru them.  One of mine is “activation energy” on new activities!  So I have signed up for classes (paid the fees), scheduled activities with others (they are not happy if you’re a no-show), and made verbal commitments to friends (who check back with me on them).
5. REFINE: Continual renewal – refresh, rejuvenate, revise

I find day-by-day plans, as well as week-by-week goals, give me a calendar filled with activities than inspire, energize and satisfy me. I am reviewing it regularly. My review process: if time is flying by and I have plenty of energy, if I look forward to starting every day, if I feel happy and fulfilled – then I keep going!   Every couple of months I am reviewing my goals and measures and revising my plans.  I am re-looking at my Possibilities List for new things to add onto the calendar as others drop off, like completing many of the honey-do projects.

But if I am not feeling fulfilled, am finding it a struggle to get up off the couch, or that “life happens”, then I will change it – pick new Life Domains or even modify the vision statement. This is My plan for My future vision. As Thoreau said “Let go of the past and go for the future. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you imagined.”

What’s in a Name? – It’s not Retirement

The social concept of retirement is the same age as the oldest Baby-Boomers, created in the early 20th century as a way to move older, slower and more infirm workers out of the factories. As Baby-Boomers today reach the traditional age of retirement, the term retirement, and all it represents, has too many negative connotations with its strong link to the end of life and does not reflect the reality of their lives. Comments like “I hate having to check the retired box” and “I’m not really retired – I’m still working” are common.  So, what should we call this next stage of life if it’s not traditional retirement?

In the 1980’s Peter Laslett at Cambridge University recognized that as life expectancy grew, another lifestage was emerging – one after traditional family and career-focused adulthood and before decline-to-death, old-age retirement.   He coined this stage the Third Age in a Four Age Model:

First Age (0-25) Second Age (25-50) Third Age (50-75) Fourth Age (75-100)












Laslett described this lifestage as one with reduced responsibility yet continued health and vitality. Traditional life-of-leisure retirement was the reward for years of hard work and supported with pensions, Social Security and the emergence of retirement communities.   This new Third Age was one with freedom from the responsibility that comes from children being launched, old goals being accomplished, or careers being topped out, but still with a desire for activity and productivity.

The reality of 50-75 today is life doing a wide range of interests and activities. Many Boomers have financial needs or a desire to keep the mind active and continue to work in their field with full-time employment, part-time consulting, or teaching.   Some explore encore careers, turning life-long passions, put-aside dreams, or new interests into second income-producing careers. Some explore a world of adventure or learning new skills.   Many are giving back, volunteering their time and talents. And yes, some live the traditional life of leisure with a calendar full of activities. But very few retire into a slower, infirm way of living. The term retirement was created for the end of life Fourth Age, not the reality of this Third Age.

Even though Shakespeare said “What’s in a name? That which we call a rose, by any other name would smell as sweet,” the term Third Age does not reflect the exciting uniqueness of this emerging lifestage. Other terms like second adulthood, un-retirement, non-retirement, semi-retired, and even rewire have all been proposed in various books and blogs.   I say, let’s give it a real name all its own – let’s call it sesquiescence, ala adolescence.

Sesqui refers to one half more. Essence is a derivative of Latin for becoming.   So sesquiescence is becoming one half more – being in the second half of your life.

The term adolescence was created in the early 20th century for the emerging lifestage between childhood and adulthood as children were no longer becoming part of the workforce or marrying at young ages.   Today the adolescent lifestage is widely accepted. Adolescence and sesquiescence also have commonalities. Both have a search for friends to be an extended family. Adolescents want to separate from “family” to create their own identity while sesquiescents deal with a separation from the work family.   Both are in discovery mode to answer the questions who am I, what should I do with my life, and what is my body capable of doing?

The emerging lifestage in the beginning of the 21st century is not retirement. It is sesquiescence. A beginning of the second half of life where you can do it different, maybe do it better, but definitely do it, not retire.